This is a frequent subject I visit with clients. Many are suffering from abandonment issue.
I find there are many ways of feeling been abandoned. I would say abandonment issue has been created by intentionally or non-intentionally.
Let’s discuss intentional abandonment first. I think this kind of abandonment being created when a child physically abandoned on a street, sent to an orphanage, given away to someone related or not related, or to babysitters.
Since the second world war, women had to go to work and now it is deemed women are expected to work and bring income. Question arises when mother goes to work, the child is in the hands of other than their mom, say nanny’s or babysitters most of the case. The child experiences being abandoned. So there have been more abandonment issue that we have created since the Wars due to life circumstances.
Never mind what guilt and not good enough issue that mothers go through for their entire lives; this is for another subject to discuss later.
The other non-intentional abandonment is when a person feels not recognized, or isolated, or not loved in a family setting. Physically child is in a family setting but the child feels he/she is invisible existence to them.
Regardless of the situations, the abandonment issue has affected millions of us. People feel lack of self confident, resentment toward parents, fear of being loved or accepted, lonely, feeling not worthy, fear of going to the public, and list goes on.
This abandonment issue has been with our human history for too long, it is not just recent event.
I am discussing one recent session to illustrate this point.
A highly intelligent, beautiful, young lady in 30s presented her questions for answers, one of them was an abandonment issue.
She is from very well-to-do family, deeply loved by parents and siblings in this current life. And yet, she feels she has been abandoned and feels her parents did not want her.
Her Higher Self (HS) showed her a past life as a male in Asia several hundred years ago.
He lived in a big beautiful house with parents, an older sister, and grandma. One day, mom and dad with older sister left the house, and he was left with grandma. He was only 4 or 5 looking at parents walking away, them carrying big luggage at the house gate. He was just looking on barefoot at the gate them moving away from him. He stood there until they disappeared from his view. His only friend was a stuffed monkey that he held in his hand and grandma.
He received much love from his grandma, who looked after him in everyway for him. Now he has grown, studied hard, became a medical doctor helping people. Also found a lady he loved and married. Now he has his own family: wife and two boys.
During the course of life, his grandma passed away with heart disease and he felt extremely sad that he could not help her, had many tears of losing her. Even with him being a doctor, he could not even save her, he said.
Another scene her HS showed where he and his wife were dancing at a gathering for a happy occasion, while dancing, his wife whispered in his ear that she was leaving him for another man. The whole world suddenly became empty. All his strength left him, collapsed on a chair, only feeling numbness.
Later, once his mind settled on work and his two children raising all by himself, he had a proposal from another woman wanting to marry him, but he declined. He determined to do it all by himself. So, life continued and lonely life it was.
Once he left the body and looked back his life, he realized he missed a good opportunity to live a happy life with another lady. I asked him why he did not try. He said he was afraid she also would leave him so he did not even try, protected him from getting hurt again.
Her HS said they showed the life as it is the origin of her abandonment issue.
She has carried the abandonment issue since then in her kidneys. People carry on different location of this emotion, to her it was her kidneys and it sits as a dark cloud. her HS said it is about time to release and released from her kidneys.
Also, her HS dealt with all her emotions coming from being abandoned, now she is free from all and ready to start really living this life to the fullest.